Pain; the Necessary Evil

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Getting back up, changing, becoming stronger, and moving forward are the things that boost us to reach our goals.

Now, one might think, what’s wrong with gradual progress? What’s wrong with never-failing and still doing everything perfectly.

As you can see, I am talking about emotional pain and not the physical one. But, there still might be some similarities with that too.

Most of us have grown up hearing the upsides of failing and how it can ultimately make us the best at it.

Regress, regret, retry. When someone does that, they have the opportunity to come back better. Sometimes going in the right direction for a long time makes us weak and vulnerable. Failing is necessary to avoid becoming habituated to something so much that it makes us feel no one is better than us at it, and no more progress is needed.

This is not for all cases, though. Failing at things that matter a lot in our life can break the system entirely, while failing at small things can help us realize the value of those things and motivate us to be an improved version of who we are.

There is a beautiful correlation between music with healing emotional pain somehow. And it is true that it can, to some extent, have healing powers because of how our brain reacts to it. While it’s also equally valid that sad and emotional music can make us cry.

As described by Jason Silva, who is the former host of National Geographic’s Brain Games and the creator of the Shots of Awe;

“Music is therapeutic. Melancholic music, beautiful music that makes you cry, is piercing you in a certain way and making room for your pain.”

Pain has the ability to redirect us in the right direction. And it is a fact that failure, insults, heartbreaks, shattered dreams and accidents; all tend to contribute towards the pain.

Another interesting fact is that you can observe that some people crave pain. However weird it may sound, it is actually not wrong. Some people want to be in pain, even though if you go and ask them, they might reply that they don’t. In that case, they aren’t lying either. It is the act of their subconscious mind.

I prefer to define pain as a sort of sensation. It’s somehow fun for the brain, but we feel sad. On the other hand, a lot of pain can be intrusive and comes with a lot of side effects. But why is pain supposed to be fun for the brain? Actually, our brain craves new sensations every now and then. Being happy for quite some time can cause us to do weird things that somehow get us in trouble, and we don’t even know why we did that crazy thing.

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It was our brain. It wanted to experience new activities, exciting things, and a whole lot of new feelings. In this case, our brain acts sort of like our tastebuds, wanting to try different flavours or different dishes and various spices.

This ultimately brings us to a point where one may ask the question, can long-term happiness bring depression?

I don’t know the answer to this, but you may try figuring it out.



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