How Influencing Can the Past Really Be
A threatening type of cyber attack is the denial of service (DoS) attack. Let’s focus on the name and not its implementation at first. I’ve actually seen people literally stop concentrating on anything happening in their lives after going through terrible incidents. Like heartbreaks or the passing away of someone, they used to love. It is actually more common than one may think. In humans, we don’t call it DoS; we call it PTSD or posttraumatic stress disorder. The critical state where nothing else matters because of something that happened and that mattered a lot.
Humans can be easily controlled by emotions; I am not an exception to that either. People love people, and that’s how it’s supposed to be. So is PTSD a natural stage that somehow has to come one day sequentially? Is it perhaps the cruel consequences of loving someone? Why does the past influence us so much? And still, we say that “Past is past” and today is supposed to mean everything.
Life isn’t just today. It never was. People, who say they live in the moments, do they actually? Reality is different, and it isn’t a wall made of stones; it’s made of glass like a stack of cards. If one card falls, the whole system may break, and we might lose control of our conscience.
So what do we do? How to save ourselves from our own emotions? Expectations. Expectations can kill us; expectations can save us. If we think about it, we feel sadder when we hear about people dying from accidents and less tragic when we hear about dying from illness. Because illness is expected, we knew about it. But that isn’t the point actually; the point is that when we dare to love, we must dare to grieve when the time comes.
But expecting heartbreak doesn’t actually bury the pain; it lessens it. It makes it bearable. But what about the next stage? How to overcome it and move on? That is how to accept the reality, however cruel it may be. Meditation and music have been an effective way, besides counseling.
Something that’s happened in the past that makes us feel guilt is also influencing our lives in many ways. But these are not always negative impacts on our lives. Learning from mistakes is literally learning from the past. The power of influence the past holds over us is a lot, and it can be dangerous. But this power can also act sort of as a fuel that inspires us and motivates us to do great things in life.